Some guy, a coworker of mine, managed to give me every bad piece of advice in the book within about 2.5 minutes. I need to vent it here.
1. "I hope you learned a valuable lesson." Needless to say, looking at someone notably dispossessed and bruised and impressing a moral lesson upon them is ... not helpful, to say the least. You are not the teacher, and I am not a child who acted badly. No "lesson" needed to be learned. I made an error in judgement, which will continue to haunt me for the rest of my life. You have *NO RIGHT* to treat me--or any robbery victim--as if this is a minor classroom lesson to be inculcated upon the benighted. I will not stand for such treatment. End of story.
2. "They always pick on the weakest ones." I'm not weak, and you are my instant enemy for perceiving me that way. Being a 116-pound female doesn't make me a total wimp; express sympathy if you want, but learn to do it without insulting me.
3. "It's just a material possession. Be grateful you didn't get hurt." Um, NO. The laptop was not a material possession. It was my entire inner world, all my stories, all my creativity, all my secrets, and my entire last 5 years in a convenient, 3 pound carrying case. It was my sole source of entertainment, beauty, and joy in a crumbling world. It was my only convenient means of accessing the outer world, and it was taken from me. It feels like I've lost a limb.
And see, the thing is, God gave me this remarkable capacity ... it's called "healing". I'd have sooner taken hits and still have my laptop in my possession than the reality. Don't dictate me what I should be grateful for. I've lost my soul child, make no mistake.
4. "I always buy a can of mace. You might want to invest in one, too." It seems like sound advice till you consider that the damage is already done, that the mace would have been in the bag if I'd remembered it at all, and that I likely wouldn't have thought to use it even if I were holding it in my right hand. I was holding keys in my right hand (between my fingers!) and I didn't even think to use those. I was also holding an umbrella with a sharp point, and I didn't use that to my advantage either.
Let's face the reality: Mace is useless crap.
5. ....
The elipsis represents silence. Most people just try to change the subject or say, "Too Bad, here's a hug". Most don't really share my sense of outrage. If you don't care about my being robbed, don't ask me to tell my tale of it. Please and thank you.
AT LEAST ACT LIKE YOU CARE.
Rant over.
1. "I hope you learned a valuable lesson." Needless to say, looking at someone notably dispossessed and bruised and impressing a moral lesson upon them is ... not helpful, to say the least. You are not the teacher, and I am not a child who acted badly. No "lesson" needed to be learned. I made an error in judgement, which will continue to haunt me for the rest of my life. You have *NO RIGHT* to treat me--or any robbery victim--as if this is a minor classroom lesson to be inculcated upon the benighted. I will not stand for such treatment. End of story.
2. "They always pick on the weakest ones." I'm not weak, and you are my instant enemy for perceiving me that way. Being a 116-pound female doesn't make me a total wimp; express sympathy if you want, but learn to do it without insulting me.
3. "It's just a material possession. Be grateful you didn't get hurt." Um, NO. The laptop was not a material possession. It was my entire inner world, all my stories, all my creativity, all my secrets, and my entire last 5 years in a convenient, 3 pound carrying case. It was my sole source of entertainment, beauty, and joy in a crumbling world. It was my only convenient means of accessing the outer world, and it was taken from me. It feels like I've lost a limb.
And see, the thing is, God gave me this remarkable capacity ... it's called "healing". I'd have sooner taken hits and still have my laptop in my possession than the reality. Don't dictate me what I should be grateful for. I've lost my soul child, make no mistake.
4. "I always buy a can of mace. You might want to invest in one, too." It seems like sound advice till you consider that the damage is already done, that the mace would have been in the bag if I'd remembered it at all, and that I likely wouldn't have thought to use it even if I were holding it in my right hand. I was holding keys in my right hand (between my fingers!) and I didn't even think to use those. I was also holding an umbrella with a sharp point, and I didn't use that to my advantage either.
Let's face the reality: Mace is useless crap.
5. ....
The elipsis represents silence. Most people just try to change the subject or say, "Too Bad, here's a hug". Most don't really share my sense of outrage. If you don't care about my being robbed, don't ask me to tell my tale of it. Please and thank you.
AT LEAST ACT LIKE YOU CARE.
Rant over.
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